Chris Giglio and his wife Bre have become relatable and refreshing voices on TikTok through their account, @chrisandbre.g. With nearly 200,000 followers, they’ve captured the hearts of parents everywhere by sharing moments from their daily lives with their two daughters. One recurring theme? Chris’ “mornings with the girls.”
“Nearly every morning for over 3 years, I’ve gotten up with our girls so Bre can get the sleep she deserves after she gave so much to grow our little family,” Chris captioned one of his videos. In the clip, he’s seen cleaning the kitchen, folding laundry, and making breakfast, all before the rest of the household stirs.
But not all the reactions to his videos have been positive. While many celebrate Chris for his hands-on approach to parenting, some commenters have taken a different tack, asking pointed questions about his wife’s contributions.
“Does she ever let you sleep in? Just wondering if you ever have ‘you’ days?” one user asked. Others were even less polite, essentially questioning, “If she’s not up with the kids, what does she even do?”
Chris responded to the questions directly in a recent viral TikTok, taking the opportunity to reflect on what marriage truly means in their family.
@chrisandbre.g Replying to @Magen Bostwick there’s no scorecard in marriage, which is also why @Bre Giglio and I can both be winners #marriage #married #marriagetok #marriedtiktok #marriagegoals ♬ Cozy Time at the Cafe – Ryu Kato
“I’ve gotten up with my daughters every morning since they were born because that’s what has worked best for us,” Chris explained. “But for some reason, if I share about that for long enough, someone’s going to ask a variation of the question: ‘But what does she do for you?’”
Chris didn’t hold back in addressing the more profound implications of that question.
“… That question also gets me feeling like we can sometimes forget what marriage is all about,” he said.
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Chris went on to highlight the natural differences in their rhythms and preferences. He’s an early bird who enjoys mornings and cherishes this time with his kids. Bre, on the other hand, is a night owl who thrives in the evenings. Their arrangement is less about rigid fairness and more about finding balance that works for both of them.
Chris explained that his approach to mornings stems from love and the desire to support Bre, not from a need to “keep score.”
In the caption, he added: “There’s no scorecard in marriage, which is why Bre and I can both be winners.”
Chris and Bre exemplify an important relationship concept: the idea that equality and equity aren’t the same. Equality might mean splitting every chore and wake-up equally, but equity means meeting each other’s needs and playing to each other’s strengths to reach a fair and functional balance.
The double standard Chris has encountered also raises a broader issue. It’s often assumed that moms will take the lead on morning routines, but their contributions can sometimes face unfair scrutiny when dads step into that role. This cultural expectation devalues the contributions of dads like Chris and reinforces outdated ideas about parenting roles.
Fortunately, the majority of their followers get it. Comments on Chris’s videos overwhelmingly support their approach:
- “Marriage isn’t about keeping score. When both ppl give 100% to each other, no one feels like they’re slipping through the cracks ❤️ it’s honestly the best,” wrote @mamaofthree.
- “True love is splitting the chores fairly but not 50/50. My wife does most of the laundry, I hate it and she doesn’t mind, meanwhile I cook most of the time because she hates it and I like it. It works because it works for you both,” added @dan_the_dad.
- “100% and if it was the other way around no one would ask what she does for you 🙃,” said @mommode24.
Chris’s commitment to his family is a refreshing reminder that there’s no one-size-fits-all way to share the load at home. For parents navigating the dynamics of sharing the load at home, Chris and Bre’s story is a beautiful reminder that there’s no single path to success—only the one that works best for your family.
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